The partner of former Celtic player Kris Commons has spoken of her “deep regret” at never holding the couple’s stillborn baby.
Lisa Hague, who is now an ambassador for charity SiMBA, has been raising awareness of baby loss and services available to help bereaved parents following the stillbirth of daughter Lola in 2008.
The couple have set up the Lola Commons fund to help create bespoke family rooms in hospitals where parents can spend time with their baby away from a hospital’s main labour ward.
Speaking to BBC Radio Scotland’s Good Morning Scotland programme, Ms Hague described the moment she was told Lola was stillborn.
“I felt embarrassed, I felt like I had done something wrong, it must be my fault if I’ve lost the baby at that far gone,” she said.
“I rang Kris, Kris was at Nottingham Forest at the time, and he got down to the hospital, and then we asked the million questions that we thought, are these really silly questions.
“Will I give birth normally, will we name her, will she have a funeral, or is there a magic operation and she just goes away.
“We didn’t have a clue.”
She added: “I do deeply regret it, but I decided never to hold Lola when I’d given birth to her.
“I didn’t want to see a baby that had died. I was very scared and I didn’t know how I would give her back if I ever held her.”
Working with SiMBA, the family rooms and “cold cots” provided through Lola’s fund allow families to spend some time with their stillborn baby, and even have photographs taken.
The experience can provide comfort to grieving parents, Ms Hague said, adding: “I’ve met thousands of me that deeply regret it, and I’ve met thousands of families that spent time with their baby and so far I haven’t come across a family that has regretted it.
“It might not be for everyone, but so many people get a lot of comfort out of having time with their babies.”